Distorted Thinking

In addition to unhealthy core beliefs, we told ourselves some pretty crazy things about life and our fellow human beings. Some of these thoughts or beliefs we learned from our past relationships with others, some we manufactured to quell the shame and guilt resulting from our behaviors. This distorted thinking led us to even more insane behavior that took away our power as persons and made our lives unmanageable. Below is a tiny sample of our distorted thinking before we found this program.

“I am inhabited by demons."

"I deserve the bad things that happen to me because I'm so screwed up"

"My compulsive sexual behaviors don't hurt anybody but me."

"I can stop anytime I want to."

"If it's ok with them, it’s ok with me."

''What my significant other' doesn't know won't hurt him or her."

"If my significant other looked or acted in a certain way, I wouldn't need another partner."

"I shouldn't have to tell my significant other what I need and want; he/she should know."

"No" really means "not now."

"If a person is nice, that means they're interested."

"Sex is the most important thing in everyone's life."

"Unhappiness in one area of one's life means unhappiness in all areas."